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YupIt's not that he isn't clever. His sentences make sense and the grammar is correct. Autistic people lack the extroversion for attention seeking. When narcissistic supply is primarily negative, it indicates a backdrop of psychological failure to the personality seeking it - an effort for the world within their sphere of perception and influence to fail with them.
A damaged unhappy childhood is the most typical reason. The negative effects normally last a lifetime.I've encountered a lot of this. He's one of those guys you carry in work that is persistently undoing the work that's done for him and demanding that you do an increasingly greater share of it. It's become remarkably common and I've found it, to some degree, in every queer I've worked with - although the males are pronouncedly more affected by it - thus my aversion to the whole LGBT thing. There is a time bomb in contemporary recruitment strategies going to go off as fewer and fewer of the people employed in organisations do the work. There's some environmental factor that we're either missing or refuses to be acknowledged. It can't just be down to genetics - there's a formative component that is turning on these dysfunctional patterns.
Agreed. He’s also a natural hot head. Mix that with the ADHD and it’s a recipe for disaster.Now, it could be conjectured that the flurry of self-assertive posts were a product of a nervous immaturity used to conceal a feeling of vulnerability - like a small dog's bark. Efforts were made to reassure and include him in the discussion but these proved futile. He has access to humour but lacks creativity which may be why his posts are so trite and insolent - it may also explain his lack of any depth, his mind skims in shallow patterns.
Agreed.It's much more likely that this is a defect that we cannot remedy. It is often the case that when "people with a normal psychology" meet such individuals there is a disbelief in its intransigence and incorrigible attempts are made to engage with such persons with standard appeals to the various components of human intelligence.
‘Sub-adult behaviour’. Nail on head.However, there are missing components here. The subject has no access to them and so appeals to such parts of human intelligence are treated by them as nonsense and used as levers of advantage. It's like the burden of lying - to those who do not experience this burden, lying is a perceived as a particular advantage over the stupid people who do. They cannot realise that lying lacks intelligence and is a pathological flaw - the same with tantrums or violence. It's what we consider sub-adult behaviour.
Yeah, a lack of a father figure is detrimental to both boys and girls. It manifests differently, but the source of sorrow is the same.Perhaps it's the consequence of infantilisation - something that Fishalt was addressing last night with him - Poor Jimbo had no spirit guide to aid him through the thicket of adolescence and is wandering in it still.
That's a long way of saying that he's a header.